Jillian's Experience Part 1

Introduction to the Abuse

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It was 2018 when I finished writing my first book.

In this book I shared my personal experiences in relationships that involved abuse of many sorts. In the process of writing my first book, I found myself feeling frustrated and exhausted, both physically and mentally. The purpose of my first book was to share my experience to help other individuals who found themselves “stuck” in abusive relationships. I wanted to use my negative experiences to provide guidance to others who found themselves in positions that I had once been in.

At a certain point in writing my book, I wanted to give up. It seemed as though my story and my experiences were not supposed to be told or heard. What had seemed like a muzzle around my mouth for my entire life began to grow righter. All I wanted to do was give up sharing my story. I didn’t give up. I published that first book. Unbeknownst to me at the time, the ending of my first book was the premise to what followed in the next several years of my life.

This is what I wrote:  

“Spiritual Abuse is the ultimate abuse because God is where we find our salvation, healing and wholeness. It is through him that we gain our strength to move forward and even share our stories. I believe it’s important to understand that this type of abuse is very real, and we must be careful to not fall in.”

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Photo by Christin Hume on Unsplash

Looking as far back as I can remember, my entire life has been structured to the beliefs the Catholic Church teaches.

I never once questioned the advice I was given by priests because I was taught that they had the answer to any questions I had, that they were the closest humans to God. Why would I ever question their authority? I was taught that they are trustworthy, that they want the best for their clergy. I mean they devoted their entire life to God himself.

When my dad, Bob, was diagnosed with Hepatitis C, he and my mother went to every healing priest around America to try and heal his sickness. Even when faced with physical ailments, I saw several family members who spoke and lived the Catholic tradition looking for help from priests in order to heal the hardships they faced.

In 2017, I went to a laicized healing priest for guidance. And just when I thought I had gotten to a point in my life where the muzzle that was placed on me was loose enough to take off, it tightened all at once when this healing priest, Thomas McVeigh (Mac) Smith, entered my life.

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Photo by Michal Matlon on Unsplash

About the Author

Jillian Coburn is an entrepreneur, inventor, outdoorswoman, and mother of three who is passionately committed to supporting and elevating women who have nowhere to turn and living under the shadows of domestic violence. A survivor herself, she assists women living with abuse by empowering and teaching them how to get out, heal and build a life they’ve always imagined.

Jillian is an author, speaker, and advocate who is dedicated to preventing child sexual abuse and holding offenders accountable.

Published by SurvivorSpace, an initiative of Zero Abuse Project